There's someone living in your head. Did you know?
The voice that you have in your head, whether it's negative or positive, as a very definite impact on your life, health, and happiness.
The voice in your head has the power to make any good thing seem bad and, surprisingly, can turn any bad situation into a positive one. As I wrote in my last post, positive self-talk has helped me to feel happy and really good throughout what has been a physically demanding and difficult pregnancy. Hopefully it will help me in labor and when I become a mom, too!
The trick to positive self-talk is PRACTICE! It's definitely something that takes a little effort and time for most people. Even when you feel you've got it down pat, there will still be moments of weakness where you let negative thoughts have their affect on you. The trick is to always try and get back on the wagon of speaking positively to yourself.
I like to use trigger words such as: bad, failure, hopeless, lonely, depressed, etc. Man just writing those words makes me feel yucky! When I hear my inner voice using words like that, I stop what I'm doing, take a deep breath and come up with 3 positive things that are going on in my life. Then I try and turn around my negative thought and make it a positive one.
Example:
Negative Thought: "I'm so lonely, my husband never has time for me."
Positive thoughts: 1) "I am healthy," 2) :I am intelligent," 3) :My husband loves me so much and is such a good man" (okay that one was two, but going overboard is perfectly acceptable!)
Turned around negative thought: "I am so lucky to have such a dedicated, intelligent and hard working husband! What can I do to make my time with him more meaningful and show my love and appreciation for him more?"
It's good to end with some idea for pro-activity! Your happiness is in your own hands! Go do something about it and stop the negative self-talk. The impact it will have on your life and stress levels will be huge, I promise you!
Love, Lis
Tuesday, October 27
Pregnancy is hard work!
My pregnancy has definitely not been an easy one physically. I won't go into all the details, because it's boring and not very fun or productive to talk about them, but it really has been a struggle these past nine months.
That being said, if you were to come up to me (9months pregnant) right now and as me how I feel what do you think I would say? Huge. Bloated. In Pain. Fat. *insert any and all negative responses here*
My honest answer to the question "How do you feel?" is "Pretty darn good!".
Wait a minute, what? How can you be huge, bloated, in pain and suffering from constant acid reflux and say that you feel 'pretty darn good'?
I have my parents to thank for it. Since I was a teenager (or maybe earlier, but that's when I have my first solid memories of learning this) my parents taught me that every person is in charge of his or her own feelings, attitudes, actions and reactions.
How does this apply to pregnancy? The same way it applies to any person suffering from any physical ailment. Knowing this has enabled me to look past my immediate discomfort (or downright pain, lets be honest!) and see that a) if there's something I can do to help myself I need to quit moaning and do it, b) there may be nothing I can do for myself, physically, right now and c) even if there is nothing I can do to help myself, I can choose to be happy in spite of my troubles.
Sometimes when I read that it sounds kind of depressing (the whole "there's nothing you can do so just be happy") but I promise that when you put it into practice you will notice the most humongous change for the better in your life and in your happiness levels!!!
How do you put it into practice? Positive self-talk...but that's a topic for another post. Until then, think about a) proactivity b) acceptance and c) choosing happiness.
Sorry for the long post and lack of pictures- I've got a new cool camera coming in the mail though, so there should soon be lots of awesome photos (of my big belly!) and maybe even some videos soon!
Love, Lis
That being said, if you were to come up to me (9months pregnant) right now and as me how I feel what do you think I would say? Huge. Bloated. In Pain. Fat. *insert any and all negative responses here*
My honest answer to the question "How do you feel?" is "Pretty darn good!".
Wait a minute, what? How can you be huge, bloated, in pain and suffering from constant acid reflux and say that you feel 'pretty darn good'?
I have my parents to thank for it. Since I was a teenager (or maybe earlier, but that's when I have my first solid memories of learning this) my parents taught me that every person is in charge of his or her own feelings, attitudes, actions and reactions.
How does this apply to pregnancy? The same way it applies to any person suffering from any physical ailment. Knowing this has enabled me to look past my immediate discomfort (or downright pain, lets be honest!) and see that a) if there's something I can do to help myself I need to quit moaning and do it, b) there may be nothing I can do for myself, physically, right now and c) even if there is nothing I can do to help myself, I can choose to be happy in spite of my troubles.
Sometimes when I read that it sounds kind of depressing (the whole "there's nothing you can do so just be happy") but I promise that when you put it into practice you will notice the most humongous change for the better in your life and in your happiness levels!!!
How do you put it into practice? Positive self-talk...but that's a topic for another post. Until then, think about a) proactivity b) acceptance and c) choosing happiness.
Sorry for the long post and lack of pictures- I've got a new cool camera coming in the mail though, so there should soon be lots of awesome photos (of my big belly!) and maybe even some videos soon!
Love, Lis
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